Improve Your Confidence or Self Esteem

"I can't help feeling shy even with friends or work colleagues.  It gets even worse with strangers"

"If I have to speak up, my hearts start to race and my throat goes dry.  The closer it gets to my turn, the worse it gets"

"I always end up saying 'yes' even though what I really want to say is 'no'.  I feel like I have to please everyone, even if it's not what I want.

"I don't like the way I look or sound, I have a funny laugh, my walk is funny.  What will people think of me?"

Does this sound like you? If so, you're not alone.

Low self-esteem or confidence often develops over time, shaped by experiences and the messages we receive from others.

Sometimes it can start in childhood. When we are frequently criticised, overlooked, or made to feel “not good enough.”  Those feelings can become internal beliefs that carry into adulthood. 

Traumatic events, bullying, toxic relationships, or repeated failures can reinforce these beliefs.  Slowly chipping away at a person’s sense of self-worth. 

Even in successful people, confidence can be fragile, especially if they constantly compare themselves to others or set unrealistically high standards.

The brain is wired to focus on threats, and that includes perceived failures or judgments. When we experience self-doubt, the brain can start to filter information in a way that confirms those negative beliefs, ignoring praise and magnifying mistakes. 

Low self-esteem isn’t a personality flaw, it’s often a response to past experiences and unhelpful thinking patterns. But with the right support, it’s possible to change how you see yourself and begin to rebuild confidence.

Imagine feeling comfortable in your own skin, being able to speak up without fear or worrying about being judged.

Picture taking on new challenges with excitement instead of dreading being next in line or chasing that promotion, even though it means presenting or speaking in public.

Can you envision being able to set boundaries and have healthier relationships where you feel worthy of love and respect?  Being able to say "no" without feeling guilty.

This isn't just fantasy.  With the right support, this could be describing the new you!

Solution Focused Hypnotherapy is a modern, evidence-based approach that focuses on what you want to achieve rather than on the problems of the past. The program can be done online, from the comfort of your own home and begins with a friendly and supportive conversation to understand how you are feeling and for me to explain how I can help.

It’s a gentle, supportive process that works with the brain’s natural ability to change.

We will work together to: 

Understand Your Brain: I begin by explaining how the brain works, particularly regarding the role of the primitive brain, the part that works to keep us from harm. This knowledge empowers you to understand how negative thoughts and anxieties arise and how to manage them effectively.

Interrupt Negative Patterns that are contributing to low self-esteem. 

Focus on Solutions: I work with you to focus on your desired future state rather than dwelling on past failures or limitations. I will help you visualise and plan for a future where you feel confident and successful, shifting your mindset towards possibility and growth.

Build on Strengths:  I will help you identify your strengths, talents, and past successes. By acknowledging and appreciating your positive qualities, you begin to build a more balanced and positive self-image.

Set Achievable Goals: As you accomplish these goals, no matter how small, you experience a sense of progress and build momentum toward a more positive self-view.

Create Positive Habits that support self-esteem, such as practising self-care, setting boundaries, and engaging in activities that bring you joy and fulfilment.

I understand that reaching out for help takes courage. Rest assured, I'm here to provide a warm, non-judgmental space where you can begin your journey to calm.

I also understand that just leaving home can be difficult, which is why I offer an effective online solution that works just as well as being face-to-face.  However, if you'd prefer face-to-face, we can do that too.

Are you Ready to Feel Better?

Let's start with a conversation. I offer a free 30-minute, no obligation call where you can share your concerns, ask questions and get a feel for how we might work together.

Take that first step towards the happier, more confident life you deserve. Contact me today using the button below, or simply call or email directly.

Your journey to peace begins with a single step – and I'm here to walk alongside you.

Call or WhatsApp 07368 424525

Email better-brain@outlook.com